Brotherhood-Its lives through you!
“Let us consider how we may spur one another to love and good deeds. Let us not forsake meeting together as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another, and all the more as you see the day approaching.”
Many firefighters today have become disheartened with the word “brotherhood.” It’s not uncommon to hear statements such as:
“Brotherhood is dead, no one is treating me like a ‘brother’”
“Brotherhood, I got your brotherhood right here…Let me tell you about the time…”
Dear friends, I witness far too many firefighters let the actions of others dictate and influence their future behaviors. My favorite game is “Who can be the worse firefighter.” For example:
You relieve me late, I relieve you late.
You don’t clean up the station, I don’t clean up the station.
The problem with this mentality is it is soley based on what you receive and not what you give. To understand brotherhood, you first have to understand that your heart has to continually be willing to do the right thing especially when others are not.
Your actions, beliefs, and words need to be based on your inner desire to fulfill your calling not because Z shift isn’t doing their job, or someone hurt you in your past, or you were the victim of a poisoned fire station.
As firefighters, we understand that we are to respond to a bad situation and make it better. Why is it that we can’t seem to take that mentality into our fire houses that are struggling with the cancer of poor morale?
Brotherhood starts with you! It starts with you choosing to practice what you preach and consistently do so no matter what others say, do, or don’t do to you.
As a family, the fire service needs to embrace the concept of personal ownership. Each day repeat this statement: “I am responsible for my attitude, my behaviors, my actions, and my discipline.”
It is not someone else’s job to affirm your bad behavior it is our job as the brotherhood to help cut out the cancer of the fire service and replace with ‘healthy firefighters’ who appreciate and understand that this is the greatest job in the world.
Keep the Faith!